Saturday, March 18, 2006


Why have we chosen this word to be our euphemism for orgasm?

"Come." Used as a command: Sit. Stay. Come. Being at someone's mercy. You can't help yourself. You're compelled to follow his/her orders.

"I'm coming." The sense of one person moving into another's space. When called from another room, your lover calls back, "I'm coming..." And then he/she is there, with you.

"He came." "She came." The rush of knowing you're desired. You're at the party, hoping he/she will show up. Hoping he/she wants you enough to make an effort. And then someone whispers in your ear, "He came." "She came." And you're suddenly flushed with pleasure and nervous expectation of what will happen next. The air in the space between you crackling with electricity.

"Come for me." The bare exposure of one's need, the desire to not be abandoned or lonely. Yearning for connection. Calling across a distance: I'm alone here. Come for me.

"Come inside me." "I want to come inside you." The sense of giving everything you are to someone. Saying to someone, or having someone say to you: "You don't just get the exterior, the shut door. All the doors and windows fly open at your approach. You get to come inside." Coming in from the cold world, into the warmth of another human being. Two parts becoming whole for the first time, over and over. One ecstatic soul, for one ecstatic moment.

It's a good word.


Blogger Ellie said...

I came.

And, you summed it up for me.


3/19/2006 6:48 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Ellie: And hopefully you (or someone you like) saw and conquered, too.

3/19/2006 9:16 AM  
Blogger Karl Elvis said...

I've often puzzled over the origin of that word, never having been able to find an adequate answer to where it - sorry - came from.

It is an excellent word, however, and one I enjoy growling out.

3/19/2006 11:14 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Karl Elvis: It is an excellent word. *Particularly* when growled out.

3/19/2006 11:56 PM  
Anonymous Cherrie said...

I loved your exposition on this seldom-explored bit of etymology!

Do we use "come" because the semen "comes" out of the man's cock?

Just guessing!

3/20/2006 8:32 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Cherrie: And I love a girl who can use "cock" and "etymology" in the same breath.

Do we use "come" because the semen "comes" out of the man's cock?

Interesting theory. But then why would women use the term, too?

3/20/2006 11:19 AM  
Anonymous Cherrie said...

Maybe because males hijacked the sexual lexicon early on.

For what it's worth, I prefer the alternate spelling, cum:

Cum (n.)--(1) the act of having an orgasm; (2) the male ejaculate (syn.: semen, jizz, juice).

Cum (v.)--to experience orgasm, to reach the state of ultimate sexual bliss.

3/21/2006 12:16 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Cherrie: Yeah, I've never been big on alternate spellings of words that aren't that hard to spell to begin with. Things like "nite" and "thanx" bug the hell out of me, no idea why. Plus the "cum" spelling always reminds me of poorly written Penthouse Forum stories for some reason.

The dictionary also defines "come" as slang for orgasm, so it counts, too.

But whatever spelling gets you off, I say go with it.

3/21/2006 1:00 AM  
Blogger Adora said...

What a beautiful ode to a great word. I never really thought about this before, but I will now! Thanks.

3/25/2006 5:41 PM  
Blogger Tara Tainton said...

So interesting to finally sit back and think about it! Part of the appeal has to be in its present an ongoing sensation or action. It has ended yet; it's still on its way, building up, etc. :)

Very interesting topic! I'll be back for more...


3/26/2006 3:54 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Adora: Aw, thanks. And thanks for saying hi.

Tara: Yes, good in the present tense. And then let's not forget in the past tense you can say you also saw and conquered. ;-) Thanks for the comment. I'll look forward to your visits.

3/26/2006 6:18 PM  
Blogger Cricket said...

To me, it's because if you're doing it right, if you're perfectly there in the moment and connected to that person, true intimacy is in inviting them to come with you, to a place beyond normal consciousness, where body and spirit and mind join in perfect bliss.

3/27/2006 7:49 PM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Cricket: Excellent point, and very nicely put! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

3/28/2006 12:03 AM  

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