Friday, September 22, 2006

"Three sex acts enter, one sex act leaves."

Time for an Oral-Anal-Coital cage fight. Can you handle it?

Today I've got a fun little survey for you, based on a few throw-away lines I heard in a B-list romantic comedy I watched earlier this evening.

Let's say you were presented with this choice:

For the rest of your life, you can receive ONLY oral sex , ONLY coital sex, or ONLY anal sex.

Which would it be? (And why.)

I'll add this stipulation to make the choice more difficult: Let's say this act you choose would be (heaven forbid!) the ONLY sexual act you get to experience. No masturbation, no manual stimulation from others, no vibrators, etc.

Oh, and please feel free to share the thought process that led you to your decision, regardless of what it is. I'm really interested to hear that part. To me, it's no easy choice.

I'm also interested if responses will skew very different by gender. We shall see...


Anonymous Darkhawk said...

I find it a very easy question -- coital sex.

Easy explanation why -- it doesn't matter how good anything else feels, how intense the orgasms are, I don't get the emotional satisfaction/release without coital sex. And not getting the emotional satisfaction would mean permanent frustration.

9/22/2006 2:44 AM  
Blogger Karl Elvis said...

I assume we get a choice of active or passive on those oral/anal questions. B^)

9/22/2006 12:29 PM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Darkhawk: Yep, that was my first impression, but then I thought I might REALLY miss clitoral orgasms a LOT. Though...well, I was going to make a point, but I will wait till others weigh in to do so.

Karl Elvis: No, the question isn't about what you get to give, just about what you get to receive. (Unless I'm misunderstanding your question and you mean something else.)

And anyway, either way, you didn't answer the question.

9/22/2006 12:48 PM  
Anonymous Hiromi said...

I'm assuming we can get these things on demand. Otherwise, I won't play. ;p

If I can get it on demand, definitely coital sex for the following reasons:

1) Buttsex is definitely not the main course. It's like frog legs or something -- something you might want when the mood strikes, but it still gets relegated to novelty status for me.

2) You can't simultaneously kiss someone while performing/receiving oral sex, and I'm all about kissing.

3) Hugging, or else maximizing the possibility of skin-to-skin contact. Full-body contact is possible during oral sex, but you're all reversed. A proper hug is done with your head/ass in the same configuration as your partner. The hugging part -- whether face to face or from behind -- is a HUGE factor for me.

I'm with Darkhawk -- reasons #2 and 3 help make it emotionally fulfilling. I'm not saying sex for cheap thrills is a bad thing at all, but I have to have the potential for an emotional connection.

9/22/2006 2:53 PM  
Anonymous Hiromi said...

Actually, Syl, Karl has a point. Restricting it to receiving would eliminate anal right off the bat for most hetero males (and even some gay males), so your results would be skewed.

There also might be people who *strongly* prefer to *give* oral sex.

9/22/2006 2:58 PM  
Anonymous Circe said...

Wait a minute. Did you say that this is the ONLY type of sex we'd ever be able to have again? No autoerotica at all? What about, like, if I picked coital sex, would that mean that there could be no clitoral touching as foreplay? And I couldn't, say, touch myself during coital sex or anything?

9/22/2006 3:35 PM  
Blogger TravelingMermaid said...

Yeah, how literal is this choice? For coital does that mean nothing but penetration? No kissing? No rubbing, licking, sucking, biting, scratching, screaming, and everything else that goes along with it?
If not,I'll take oral.

9/22/2006 7:29 PM  
Blogger AlwaysArousedGirl said...

I'll have the intercourse as my main dish, please, with the kissing on the side, if you could.

And please give me some extra intimacy. I love the intimacy.

9/22/2006 9:49 PM  
Blogger Ray in New Orleans said...

If I had to choose between kissing and fucking, I might actually choose kissing.

9/24/2006 8:51 PM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Okay, I knew ya'll would be the types to skip over denial and anger go straight to bargaining! Just take the question at face value, for f's sake!

Hirom, point 1i: 1) On demand receipt is fine. 2) You *can* kiss someone while performing oral sex, just not on the mouth. Heh.

Hiromi, point 2: In the movie I watched, a straight guy told his straight female friend that a man would always pick oral over regular coital sex, every time, if he could only have one. She was surprised.

I thought it was an interesting question, so that was how I was originall going to pose it: oral or coital. But then I felt I was leaving out gay readers, so I added anal. And I think it's a better choice because while, true, it may eliminate one or the other for one or the other sexual preference, each has at least two basic options they MIGHT do in their choice. I just wanted to make sure everyone who read had 2 choices.

Circe: I'll leave that up to you to determine. It would be interesting to know if your choice would be different, depending.

Traveling Mermaid: See response to Circe above. And why oral if not?

AAG: You know, that was my first response, too. I'd rather have coital because i want the intimacy. But I'd really miss clitoral orgasms. I mean, I'd REALLY miss them. But then, I suppose if you have coital sex in just the right position, even if you weren't using a hand, you might be able to have a clitoral orgasm--though I've yet to make that happen, myself (without some manual stimulation involved at the same time).

Ray: Kissing what?

9/24/2006 9:16 PM  
Blogger baby221 said...

I might get screwed out of orgasms but I'd go with coital sex. It feels more intimate to me.

Unless, of course, you count really erotic kisses as oral sex -- in which case I'd have to go with oral, because a life without kisses would tear me to pieces.

9/25/2006 10:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That kind of leaves me out. I'm not a big fan of oral. It's nice sometimes but I prefer manual stimulation. And the other two...I can't have a dildo or vibrator can I?

Alright. If you held me at gunpoint I'd pick oral. :D

9/27/2006 1:32 PM  
Blogger Goose and Gander said...

Have to say coital. can't give up the face to face, and there's so many variations...and with that much time to practice we'll figure a way to give Goose vaginal orgasms. Or we'll cheat. ;-)

9/29/2006 8:31 PM  
Blogger Jenny said...

I'd have to go with coital sex. You can't make babies with oral or anal, as fun as they are.

10/18/2006 3:02 AM  
Blogger luvmywifesass said...

For the wife and I it's got to be anal! We haven't even had vaginal sex for over six months.

3/04/2007 2:28 AM  

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