Thursday, January 12, 2006

My Name is Sylvie, and I am an Aural Onanist

Okay, I need to come clean. I love phone sex. LOVE it.

This is probably primarily because I just love sound during sex in general. For me, quiet sex is okay, but if you really want to get me crazy, moan into my ear just how good you're feeling and I'll climb the walls; and most likely every inch of you, as well.

I also believe in reciprocating in kind, of course. I'm perfectly happy saying things to men that would make other women blush. In fact, I prefer doing so--and it's especially cute and rewarding if I can say something that will makes the man blush, too (in a good way, of course--maybe "flush" rather than "blush" is the right word).

In general, my phone sex has been restricted to men I've been in relationships with. But I have tried it twice with strangers, as a sort of experiment. And while I still much prefer both real and imagined sex to be with someone I know intimately, I find it interesting that in the physical realm, I generally can't fully enjoy sex or reach a full orgasm unless it's with someone I know and trust. Whereas, I have been able to come while having phone sex with a stranger. I'm not sure why this is, but I'm guessing there are two possibilities:

1) The person on the phone has to make sounds throughout the act, so I know what's going on. In physical sex, many men often try to imitate the male porn star thing where they stay quiet during sex except during the blow job and orgasm stages (so annoying). So during phone sex, I'm getting constant aural stimulation, which is a constant exciter for me.

2) It feels like there is less serious fallout consequence from a one-night phone stand than a one-night real-life stand. There aren't any STDs or potential pregnancies to worry about. The other person doesn't know where you live (assuming you're unlisted or you block caller ID), and you're not going to run into him in Starbucks the next morning. Well, I mean, you could, but you wouldn't know it if you did. So no uncomfortable conversations.

In any case, as I am currently partnerless, I don't have phone sex nearly as often as I would like. And yet, ironically, I'm often told (even by people I am not having the slightest sexually-tinged conversation with) that I was blessed with a voice that instantly stimulates the male libido, particularly over the phone. Not saying this to brag, mind you, it's just something I've been told spontaneously so many times that I figure it must be true--though to me I just sound like...myself. Anyway, here: you be the judge.

this is an audio post - click to play

So, the facts: 1) I love phone sex. 2) I have a phone sex operator voice. 3) I have no one to have phone sex with.

It's enough to get a girl thinking about quitting her respectable day job and going pro. So today, I am especially interested by this post by Katie over at Talking Dirty, about how to be a phone sex operator. Definitely looking forward to part two.

I wonder if I could satisfy my aural fixation AND make more money than I'm currently earning. I suspect not. And I probably would prefer getting it for free where the conditions are more egalitarian. But still, it's an interesting least a good one to fall asleep to after I sign off tonight.

In any case, if you're interested in other types of long-distance sex, too, you might also want to check out another blog link I found via Katie's site: Dante's Guide to Cybersex.


Blogger Dante Hunter said...

Hey Sylvia--

Thanks for the link/review... yours is the first one I've got from a complete stranger whose blog I hadn't yet read. But now that I'm here, I'm glad to have found my way to your musings.
Katie's is really great, and as a phonesex virgin myself it's nice to read about a field I know nothing about. I guess I had prejudiced phone-sex as something skeezy advertised in the back of porno: 69 cents/minute to listen to moaning transvestites & "girls who just turned 18 having their first sexual experience"? No thanks. But I'm sure that, like cybersex, when it's done well and by intelligent and inventive people, phonesex can be fun and erotic.
Your friends are right by the way; your voice is at least slightly magic. But as much fun as being a client might be, I have a personal "no spending money on sex" philosophy. There's too much good fun to be have with willing volunteers and internet writers and exhibitionists. Keep up the good work, and I'll try to have Dante's Guide to Cybersex Part II up in a day or two.


1/13/2006 1:52 AM  
Anonymous Vixen said...

I wanted to chime in on how much I love the phones humping picture. Adorable!

1/15/2006 12:03 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Hi Vixen, you lovely girl.

I know, isn't it so funny?

I've just been peeking at your blog. Nice work. I admire you phone sex operators. I wonder, even if you like phone sex a lot, if you do it for work regularly does it take the fun out of it? Sort of the "get paid for doing what you love, it loses all it's appeal" conundrum?

1/15/2006 1:34 AM  
Blogger Miss Syl said...

Heya Dante,

I think both phone sex and cybersex can be fun, but like you, I'd be hesitant to pay for it or get paid for it, because then I think it would be a job, not fun (as stated above). Plus, in a pay situation you lose the equality of the situation, in phone sex, the customer is always right. In a phone/cyber situation between consenting adults done strictly for pleasure, the assumption (hopefully) is that both parties will build a mutually pleasing fantasy.

I have tried out cybersex a few times and it can be quite erotic; but I have found the human connection is a bit less and as a result people can sometimes be ruder--I've heard a lot of stories of men who log off the minute they come and just leave the other person hanging there, wondering what happened. I have had this happen to me once, but have heard the complaint very often from others. In fact, maybe you should add that as a rule in your guide--wait till both of you are finished!

1/15/2006 1:40 AM  
Anonymous Vixen said...

Does it take the fun out of it?

I'd say no because with customers the focus is on their fantasy-no matter how much they insist they want whatever I want.

So when I want sex play for myself, it's more focused on me and my partner so my needs are getting met.

Now doing phone sex with a client is different. Sometimes it just feels like work. But other times it's fun to hear a different take on a fetish, or to explore something you normally wouldn't.

1/15/2006 3:40 AM  

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