My Name is Sylvie, and I am an Aural Onanist

Okay, I need to come clean. I love phone sex. LOVE it.

This is probably primarily because I just love sound during sex in general. For me, quiet sex is okay, but if you really want to get me crazy, moan into my ear just how good you're feeling and I'll climb the walls; and most likely every inch of you, as well.

I also believe in reciprocating in kind, of course. I'm perfectly happy saying things to men that would make other women blush. In fact, I prefer doing so--and it's especially cute and rewarding if I can say something that will makes the man blush, too (in a good way, of course--maybe "flush" rather than "blush" is the right word).

In general, my phone sex has been restricted to men I've been in relationships with. But I have tried it twice with strangers, as a sort of experiment. And while I still much prefer both real and imagined sex to be with someone I know intimately, I find it interesting that in the physical realm, I generally can't fully enjoy sex or reach a full orgasm unless it's with someone I know and trust. Whereas, I have been able to come while having phone sex with a stranger. I'm not sure why this is, but I'm guessing there are two possibilities:

1) The person on the phone has to make sounds throughout the act, so I know what's going on. In physical sex, many men often try to imitate the male porn star thing where they stay quiet during sex except during the blow job and orgasm stages (so annoying). So during phone sex, I'm getting constant aural stimulation, which is a constant exciter for me.

2) It feels like there is less serious fallout consequence from a one-night phone stand than a one-night real-life stand. There aren't any STDs or potential pregnancies to worry about. The other person doesn't know where you live (assuming you're unlisted or you block caller ID), and you're not going to run into him in Starbucks the next morning. Well, I mean, you could, but you wouldn't know it if you did. So no uncomfortable conversations.

In any case, as I am currently partnerless, I don't have phone sex nearly as often as I would like. And yet, ironically, I'm often told (even by people I am not having the slightest sexually-tinged conversation with) that I was blessed with a voice that instantly stimulates the male libido, particularly over the phone. Not saying this to brag, mind you, it's just something I've been told spontaneously so many times that I figure it must be true--though to me I just sound like...myself. Anyway, here: you be the judge.

So, the facts: 1) I love phone sex. 2) I have a phone sex operator voice. 3) I have no one to have phone sex with.

It's enough to get a girl thinking about quitting her respectable day job and going pro. So today, I am especially interested by this post by Katie over at Talking Dirty, about how to be a phone sex operator. Definitely looking forward to part two.

I wonder if I could satisfy my aural fixation AND make more money than I'm currently earning. I suspect not. And I probably would prefer getting it for free where the conditions are more egalitarian. But still, it's an interesting thought...at least a good one to fall asleep to after I sign off tonight.

In any case, if you're interested in other types of long-distance sex, too, you might also want to check out another blog link I found via Katie's site: Dante's Guide to Cybersex.